“What exactly is divorce law?” I found that search term in the search engine field of the browser of the family computer in the den. At first I thought maybe my wife had looked it up, but after a brief moment of anxiety, I knew it could not be her.
I then realized it must be one of my kids. None of them have their own Internet through their personal electronics, which is by design. We want to keep track of their Internet surfing.
I discovered the next day that it was my son, and apparently he was trying to figure out whether mommy or daddy would get him after our divorce. That stunned us a little bit, since we’re not getting divorced, although it was hard to convince him of that.
The thing is that my wife wants one more kid, but she’s miscarried the last two. The second one was recent, and she’s been recovering physically and psychologically, even battling depression. She’s been hiding that from everyone but me, including co-workers and the kids. That’s impacted our relationship to the point that the kids thought we were splitting up, when in fact it’s anything but.
What Should You Be Doing When In the Middle of a Divorce Law Case?
When you and your current spouse have had so many problems that you think you’d be better off without them, it’s natural that you’d start thinking about divorce and the ways in which your life would change if you were single again. You may not be able to think too clearly because you’re so upset about things, but this is precisely the time when you need to make good choices. Focus on the following things while you go through your divorce.
Your Mental Health
While arguing over money and other issues, it can be so hard to feel anything but bad when you’re in the middle of a divorce. You might consider seeing a therapist who can help you process your feelings and cope with them in a healthy way.
Your Activities with Your Kids
It’s important to spend time with kids during this trying time. Take time to do something that all of you can enjoy.
If you’re wanting to have custody of the kids, you can start tracking what you do with them so that you can show the judge that you are already acting as their primary guardian.
After spending so long with someone, it can be tough to start relying on one income again. Whether you think you’ll get child support or imagine you will be paying it, sit down and do a budget that will help you to wrap your mind around what you may need to do in order to keep your finances in a good state.
For instance, you may decide to get a cheaper home than you were living in. You might decide to go back to school so that you can make more money over time. You may pick up additional income.
It’s easy to get caught up in the grief and stress of your divorce, but to give yourself hope, it’s smart to start thinking of what you hope your future will be like.
For example, have you always wanted to head to Alaska but never could because of your spouse? Now may be the perfect time to plan a trip.
When you’re able to keep your focus on the topics listed here you’re going to be able to more easily make it through your divorce. Work with your divorce lawyer to ensure that you’re doing everything necessary to end your marriage fairly and with dignity.